Relationships

The Dark Side of Love

The Dark Side of Love

Signs of discontent   In my blog http://www.signaturetherapy.co.uk/im-in-a-relationship-get-me-out-of-here/ I described some ways of being in a relationship that Psychologists label as symbiotic, co-dependent, undifferentiated, fused or enmeshed. Dances of hope, despair and stagnation All four patterns work with each partner being, usually out of their awareness, in roles that when combined make the system work as one unit. This unit,… Read more →

I’m in a Relationship….GET ME OUT OF HERE!!

I’m in a Relationship….GET ME OUT OF HERE!!

You’ve changed! Couples are angry and often ragefully angry and upset and see the root of their difficulties with their partner. Underneath their complaints about each other, the common and universal dilemma they present is “How can I be the person I know I am and be with you the person that I fell in love with?” Each will complain… Read more →

The Hostile Relationship "Winning At All Costs"

The Hostile Relationship “Winning At All Costs”

I found this clip on YouTube and was feeling nicely relaxed at the start but by the end I was pretty much on the ceiling! Are You At War With Your Other Half? Maybe you recognise yourself in this warring couple. The intensity of this drama is extreme and makes good comedy but what isn’t funny is that many relationships… Read more →